There is so much more to Grief
When your Husband dies
Sad and lonely, yes
But Grief is so much more besides
Not wanting to go home
Because home was a person
Not a house
Wandering restlessly around your
House as if you were searching for
Something lost, but not sure what it is
Having all kinds of free time
But no interest in your hobbies
No desire to finish that book
No interest in those TV shows
Turning on the TV or Radio just
Because you can’t stand the silence
Turning off the TV or Radio
Because you cannot stand the noise
Having no interest in cooking
A real meal for yourself
Filling your empty place with
This and that from the fridge
Faking interest in topics
That no longer relate in some way
To the love you have lost
Losing an entire day
To nothing but looking at hundreds of
Pictures and reading cards you exchanged
Over and over
Replaying conversations in your head
Reliving those last few precious moments
And desperately wanting to
Be sure they knew just how much they meant to you
It is changes in your body –
Finding gobs of hair in the shower
Feeling aches in your joints and muscles
Including your heart
It is staying up till tomorrow
Resisting sleep trying to figure out
Who you even are now
And what the point of anything is
It is feeling stuck
In a deep dark well
And no one knows
Where you are.
©Diane E. Dockum
June 28, 2022