How Selfish Am I?

How selfish am I
To think only of myself
When he is the one
Who really suffered
While I only watched
And could do nothing

He kept saying, "I'm sorry"
I am sorry
Sorry I could not
Make you well
Sorry I could not
Lift you out of pain

So cancer took
Another victim
And all I could do
Was watch
Helpless -- even now

I am sending my love
Out and hoping it
Falls near your soul

How selfish am I?
You have gone on a journey
Without me
And we used to do
Everything together

Except this time
I was not able to
Be beside you on the trip
Just part of the way -- for now



©April 2, 2025
Diane E. Dockum

The Laziness of Grief

No one ever told me

How lazy I would be

How loneliness begets

Untidiness

No one ever told me

How the feeling of fear

Not fear itself

Lives in your gut

Some days

I wallow in self-pity

Other days

I push myself too far

No one ever tells you

How the silence

Makes you feel

Slightly concussed

And that sleep

Feels like a warm mud

Sucking you in

Talking myself through

Each day and longer

Evening

I chide myself

I coax myself

Through this stage

Of marriage

This stage of love

©March 30, 2025, Diane E. Dockum

Winter Poem



Crissy-Crossy
Backy-Forthy
Went the tracks
Upon the snow

Gray and bushy
Tails a shaking
Up the trees
And branches go

Deer and dogs
Squirrel and bunny
Skim and scamper
To and fro

Snow is melting
More is coming
Wind and rain
With ice and snow

Busy hooves and
Fuzzy footies
Beating tracks
Across the yard

Dark of night
And new moon coming
Stars and cold
Will freeze it hard.


By Diane E. Dockum
©December 30, 2024


Cardinalis cardinalis

A cardinal came to visit me
He brought his little wife
His bright red feathers tickled me
And brightened up my life

I’d been alone for quite some time
Was missing you today
I watched this little couple 
Flit about and dance and play

It made me smile and shed a tear
To see their tufted heads
So sweet their partnership was clear
Their song from beaks of red

Though the rain was coming down
They seemed happy as could be
And I was thrilled that they had flown
And landed in my tree


By Diane E. Dockum
©April 25, 2023

Time Melted Away

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I passed through town
Riding in the passenger seat
Of the Dodge

And watched the trees
Pass by
And watched

The telephone wires
Rise and fall
From pole to pole

And time melted away
Leaving only images
Of the time gone by

I passed through town
Riding on the hard wooden seat
Of the carriage

And watched the trees
Pass by
And watched the horses drink

From the trough outside 
The drug store
And the lady at the dress shop

Arranging her window display
Waved as we passed,
When my Dad spoke to me

And I returned to the seat
Of the pick up truck
Wondering where I had been





By Diane E. Dockum
©April 20, 2023

The Catalogues Have Arrived

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To paraphrase Phil 
From the movie City Slickers
If Catalogues were people I'd be China!

Something happened
When I reached 
Senior citizen status

Each day, catalogues arrive
In stacks of colorfully emblazoned 
Glossy paper, filling my mail box with temptations

There are the ones for clothing
If you are fat, with arthritis, and can’t fasten buttons 
Or for when you travel, which I never do

There is the hardware store 
Kind, with whatever works for
Whatever kind of household hack you need

There are the salves and potion
Kind, with subscription-worthy pots
Of goop that one absolutely needs

There is a little catalogue
Narrow, with a tea bag sample
That offers countless kinds of tea

Jewelry, make-up, razor blades
Vibrators, oils, candles
Wigs, and toupee catalogues

Where did I sign up for this
Deluge of paper?
Is there somewhere I don't know about

Where it's leaking catalogues
And if so, can I stick a rag
Into that hole?

Yet, some days I pick them up
And look, just in case
I might need something.



By Diane E. Dockum
©April 19, 2023



Change of Scenery

A view from camp on Raquette River, South Colton, NY


Go for a drive
Take a walk
Plan a trip
Jump off a dock

Swim to Greenland
Climb up a tree
Sit on the roof
Bounce on someone’s knee

Lie under the table
Sit on the stairs
Sleep on a pew 
Ride a few mares

Jump off a milk can
Look up not down
Roll up a hill
Head out of town


By Diane E. Dockum
©April 16, 2023

Some Days

Some days
     it's hard to move
     to get out of bed
     to open the curtains

Some days
     the promise of coffee
     or a shower
     is reason enough

Some days
     I don't bother to wear make-up
     or shower
     and put off getting dressed

Some days
     are too much trouble
     are too quiet and lonely
     but the idea of going out is unthinkable

Some days
     I look at old photographs
     to convince myself
     you were really here, with me. 

Some days
     I hope I will see you again
     I hope we recognize each other
     Some day



by Diane E. Dockum
©April 15, 2023

Photo by Diane E. Dockum

Okay, I Have Issues Letting Go



An old shoulder bag 
Caught my attention
In the basement
While I was doing laundry

And I thought it was
A lovely bag
With the leather
Embossment of flowers

And maybe I could 
Use it again
And the shape
Was so generous

But it was covered
With a green furry mold
I put it on the counter
By the sink thinking

I could save it
But then I realized
It was organic
And the leather

Was decaying
It was too far gone
So, I pushed it
Into the bin

With a little pain
In my heart
And a lot
Of regret


by Diane E. Dockum
©April 14, 2023